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We’re Live!!

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Hey everyone!! The wait is finally over! I know yall are all just as exited as we are. The time we have all been waiting on is here! Our podcast is published and ready.  It will be live on iTunes by 3 September.

Have you ever struggled with depression, PTSD, loneliness, or any other issue since getting out? Are you still in and going through your own challenges? I know that it might seem like there is nowhere to turn. it might seem like you can’t get through it. It might seem like you are facing everything alone. Please know that you can get through it and you aren’t alone. Many of us have faced our own demons and made it through them. We are all here for you.

To you who might not know, our podcast is focused on vets and first responders who are or have struggled with depression, PTSD, etc or those who want to find another community to replace that which they have lost since getting out. Our podcast guest have the knowledge and experience dealing with their challenges in ways that they have found work for them. We strive to explain the ways in which work for each of us in hopes that it will give those struggling actionable advice that they can take from our episodes to use in their own lives.  Our guests come from many different backgrounds from door kickers, to psychologists, to VA staff who only want to give you suggestions that they have seen work. Our guests also involve vets and first responders who have done well since getting out to show everyone that it is possible to overcome and not only survive, but to thrive in their own lives.

We are here to offer a community to those who have lost theirs once they got out or to augment those that already have found another. Regardless of our individual backgrounds, we all have one major thing in common. We all at one time had that purpose that was bigger than us. We had the purpose of service and unlike what many believe, it didn’t stop once we got out. Now our purpose has changed. Now it should be to our brothers and sisters who are struggling. It is our duty to help them and look after them. We have a duty to everyone struggling to do our best to help in whatever way we can.  Please check us out for yourself. There is a lot of great information being put out. I know it will benefit your life.

I challenge everyone reading this to reach out to someone they know and check in on them. Sometimes all it takes is a kind word of a check in to change someone’s day. That might be all they need to make it another one. So please, if you know someone who might be struggling, reach out and let them know you are here. It is all of our duty to take care of those who can’t take care of themselves.

What to look for and what you can do

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Most people who consider suicide believe they have problems that they will never overcome. They think that no one can help them and that taking their own life is the only way out. People who are considering suicide often feel:
  • Helpless, like there is nothing they can do to feel better
  • Hopeless, thinking their problems cannot be solved by themselves or anyone else
  • Worthless, believing their inability to help themselves get better makes them a failure
  • Hateful toward themselves
  • Like a burden to others
  • As is the pain of living is too much to bear
People who feel these ways often show signs that health professionals consider “red flags” of suicide risk. These include:
  • Expressions of anxiety, which include agitation, insomnia or excessive sleeping, and mood swings
  • Outbursts of rage and/or persistent anger
  • A tendency to engage in risky activities, often without forethought
  • Increasing alcohol and/or drug use
  • Withdrawing from friends and family
  • Talking about or threatening to kill someone else
In addition to red flags, there are also signs of crisis that require IMMEDIATE attention from a medical or mental health professional. These include:
  • Talking about hurting or killing themselves
  • Looking for ways to kill themselves
  • Talking about death or dying
  • Self-destructive behavior, such as drug abuse or dangerous use of weapons
  • Getting affairs in order (ie. making a will, providing for the care of pets in their absence, etc.)
  • Giving away of possessions
Helping someone feel supported and cared for makes a big difference in a challenging time. It doesn’t require a grand gesture or complicated task; a simple act of kindness can help someone feel less alone.
The most important thing is to show genuine, heartfelt support for someone going through a rough period. Some might worry about what to say, fear that they will make matters worse, or think that special training is required to safely raise the subject.
It’s not. Asking about suicide does NOT create suicidal thoughts- it simply gives veterans permission to talk about his or her thoughts and feelings. If you decide to talk with a friend or family member about suicide or a life crisis, try to keep these best practices in mind.
  • Remain calm
  • Listen more than you speak
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Act with confidence
  • Don’t argue
  • Use open body language
  • Limit questions to casual information gathering
  • Be as honest and upfront as possible

Welcome to One’s Too Many

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Hello everyone,
     Thanks for checking out our site. We are very excited for all we have in the works. One’s Too Many was created with the purpose of helping raise awareness for those veterans that are struggling with depression, PTSD, loneliness, their transition into civilian life, and anything else.
     We have all been through rough times in and out of the military, but in the end we are all family. One of the hardest things that many of my friends and I dealt with while transitioning out is the loss of that amazing support system that the military provided. I didn’t understand at the time, and tell you the truth I took it completely for granted.
     To you who are struggling, to you who are in pain, to you who think there isn’t anywhere else to turn, you aren’t alone. You are surrounded by people and organizations who are desperate to help in any way possible. Just reach out to a buddy or a stranger. We are all here to support one another during the hard times, so that every one of us can make it through into the great times to come.
     Please if there is anything you need, don’t hesitate to contact us. We are here for you. You aren’t alone! Please check back into all the things we have coming out in the next couple of weeks!
One’s Too Many